Hey guys!

Dealing with old and new people can be a great challenge at the best of times. But at the core is how you deal with yourself and adjust to different settings. You’re not going to be everyone’s cup of tea and not everyone will like you but does it even matter?



In life you grow out of situations and the older I’ve become I’ve realised not every situation deserves a reaction. Sometimes I have felt like I have given a lot to a situation (relationship, friends, work) and have not necessarily felt what I have received in return equates to what I have put in. And when I say a lot I don’t mean from a financial or materialistic aspect, I mean from an emotional point of view. I like to help people where I can and just generally be there as a support system.

Maintaining Friendships

How many people can say they have friends? And I don’t mean people you would consider an acquaintance but I mean actual friends, someone you would consider family without sharing the same blood.

Growing up it’s so easy to think you have loads of friends simply because you know many people and are ‘cool’ with them but you learn that quality is far better than quantity *side note – not everyone is your friend and not everyone has your best interest at heart. Even people you thought would always be there for you sometimes aren’t. You will go through things which will leave you disappointed but I believe you learn from life experiences and as you grow older you realise this. Sometimes it’s hard to accept that people don’t always treat you in the way that you treat them but truth is, they may not see you in the way you see them. Now you can take it personally or you can acknowledge it and move on.

You will not always know every single thing that goes on in your social circle (especially in big groups of friends) but what is important is that when you are around each other the love is real, pure and genuine. If you have people around that will not keep it real, inspire or lift you up, encourage you to do better then maybe its time to side step away from certain things/people and keep it moving. Similarly, when you have friends that are going through things, be there for them, communicate, listen to one another. You may find that as a group of women, we all go through things but for whatever reason, through little communication we may not know how another is feeling and how their experiences can help you through your own. Yes its hard, you will not always agree with each other but as long as you have respect for one another

Life is about growth and moving forward, if you can’t do that you will only end up hurting yourself. Time stands still for no man so don’t waste your years doing the same things – evolution is key! x


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  1. Mikey
    28th November 2015 / 4:32 pm

    Words from the wise

    • shannonkara
      28th November 2015 / 9:43 pm

      Thank you 🙂

  2. 18th January 2016 / 5:06 pm

    This is such an amazing post! Really made me re-evaluate some of my ‘toxic’ frienships and why I care so much about what others think of me

    Alice |

    • shannonkara
      19th January 2016 / 7:07 am

      Awww thank you! Sometimes we do need to really evaluate our friendships and who really is adding value to our lives. I’ll have a look at yours now x

  3. 17th February 2016 / 1:19 pm

    I love this.. evolution is truly key. When you get to the point when you realise that it’s ok to let some people go your peace of mind is greatly improved :)) Great post hun x

    Christine |

    • shannonkara
      17th February 2016 / 2:51 pm

      100% agree. Life is all about growth and some people unfortunately you can no longer grow with! I’m glad you liked it xx